Lately my posts have been quite personal. I promise they won’t all be, just had some stuff to get off my chest 🙂 Last one I swear…
A few weeks ago I was chatting to a friend , explaining my frustrations about how I was treating people, always putting them first (or at least I felt I was putting them first) but them not putting me first and my friend said to me “Ands, I know this is going to be hard to do but have no expectations and you will be so much happier”.
Which was so true and then it had me thinking, it is actually so true and let me tell you. NOTHING good comes from having expectations. Some people are lucky and do have their expectations met but when they aren’t met, you start feeling angry, disappointed and could possibly ruin relationships.
You should just do you and be the person you want to be:)
If you are the type of person who likes supporting friends and family for their success but they don’t reciprocate for your successes, who cares, you should be doing it because you are happy for them and not for your ego.
When you’re driving and let someone into your lane, don’t expect a thank you, do it because you felt like it.
When you ask someone how they are feeling, don’t expect them to ask you.
Don’t invite someone to your birthday because you expect to be invited to theirs
Don’t give someone a compliment expecting one back.
Don’t help a friend because you expect a thank you.
I could go on…
All of this may sound cynical, selfish, true, whatever but in the last few months I have cut down on my expectations from people and I am so much happier for it.
Has anyone else learnt the hard way of not having expectations?
let me know, hope you liked this post